I had an argument with a friend of mine that fits the profile I described earlier. He thinks that arranged marriages are better than normal ones. This is the funny bit.. his reasoning is that both families get to see how compliant the man and the woman are before they sail off….. EXCUSE ME… is this a new dog you're thinking of buying, and wondering if your house design can accommodate such random creature you're gonna choose at the pet store??
Then he pulls out the amazing fact that more normal marriages end up in divorce and child support and the whole mess… I bet that is true… you know why??? Because the type of person " I mean ladies here" that had the courage to choose her husband… is more likely to walk out on him if he treats her badly… She has this internal control over her life.. and the balls to say " SOMETHING IS WRONG HERE!" Rather than the passive, shackled, cage bird, trophy wife that’s gonna probably accept bad treatment exactly the way she accepted this man in the first place without her consent.
And of course, no arranged marriage discussion is ever complete without rubbing the family card in your face. You hear it every time "would you allow it for your sister?"
Same old life line they cling to when you're grilling them with common sense and logic. Sir we are discussing my life.. and my wife-to-be's life… My sister is a whole different person.. and guess what? I don’t speak for other people… what she thinks is her own independent opinion…. But that’s the way they see life… how do I enforce my values on someone else….
I tell you folks… watch out for those educated look-alikes!