I'm gonna tell those folks a story a reverend once told me...
In old biblical times... there was a city in old jerusalem... at the entrance was a wise gate-man. Someone comes up to him and says "wise man, tell me, how is this city?" And the wiseman would say " well how did you find the city you were at ?" And he said " It was wonderful... men were like brothers, it was so safe we didnt have to lock our doors, and the people were friendly and nice." So the wiseman said " then you will find this city to be the same."
The next day someone else walks by and says " Oh wise man, how is this city?" And the wise man says "well how did you find the city you were at ?" and he said " the people were hateful, you cant trust anyone with a secret, and men were jelous of each other!" The wise man said " I'm afraid you're going to find this one to be the same."
Moral of the story: life is what you make of it.... what you see is sometimes what you want to see